Mes chéries, it’s finally feeling like autumn in New York City. How have you all been? Libra season is well underway and heading towards the last days. While Virgo season kept my life in order, this Libra season actually threw me for a few spins. Love is a theme of this time of the year, so I hope all the hopeful romantics are working on cuffing season. My love life surprised me as well, both positively and negatively. I can only hope the dark Scorpio season doesn’t turn it for worse…

Anyways, let’s hop into Libra! I never realized how many Libras are in my life until recently. True to character, it’s because they’re all very chill and float in and out of life events smoothly under the radar. I’ve always been fascinated with Libras because they’re my direct opposite in the zodiac. Most Libras I know do a great job of balancing me out or driving me insane, but I love their company as they always help me grow in vast ways.

Libra: September 23 – October 22

Symbol: The Scales
Element: Air
Quality: Cardinal
Color(s): Pink, Green
Ruling Star: Venus
Greatest Overall Compatibility: Aries, Sagittarius, Gemini

Many people call Libra the “weak link” of the zodiac because they give off the impression of being indecisive, superficial, and taking a lot of space and time to make decisions. However, Libras are much deeper than what is on their surfaces. Libras are quite charming, helpful, generous people who love sharing things and experiences with loved ones. they love making others happy. They’re active people and often love exercise, running, or even marathons. They’re also chatty and sociable and great advice givers or sounding boards. They are inspired by good books, insurmountable discussions, and physical beauty. You’ll often find them in either law related jobs or in the arts. Libras are also extremely diplomatic people.

They are deeply concerned about fight for fairness for all because they hate seeing people unhappy due to unequal situations or circumstances. This often translates into being a “people pleaser” when in reality they just wish to create harmony and peace. They will be frustrated and unhappy if people aren’t treated fairly or if they cannot find a secure balance internally. Being the sign looking for partnership and balance as well as equilibrium within themselves, Libras simply like to weigh all their options and carefully choose the one that is best for all parties involved.

While this makes them great mediators, their love for peacekeeping prompts them to despite conflict and avoid it at all cost. Some Libras become self-sacrificing and give in for the greater good of friends or families. However, most also have a sharp dislike of conflict making them rather avoidant when it comes to confrontation. These negative feelings sometimes fester into passive aggressive comments or explosions after a small infraction making them seem emotionally weak even if they’re not. Libras can take a lot (and I mean A   L O T my GOD) of time to come to a conclusion or decision which is often frustrating for more impatient signs who are looking for action and solutions or even come off as lazy to the other hard working cardinal signs.

Because they’re such tact and diplomatic people, Libras can also often accidentally be accused of being untrustworthy with their words. This is also because they’re not direct or assertive like me (the Aries in the room here hi) and don’t always reveal their feelings especially if it will cause an argument or conflict. Everything they say is carefully curated and prepared with thought behind it. However, don’t be quick to assume that a Libra is lying to you. If anything, they’re choosing words carefully to keep you happy and relationships peaceful. They will spend a lot of time thinking things over, but you can usually assume it’s for the best of both parties and not just their selfish needs even if it comes off that way.

In relationships, Libras are romantic and devoted partners ruled by Venus. They love the idea of love and being loved and often fall quickly even if it’s with someone who isn’t quite right for them OR if they themselves are not quite ready. They spend most of their lives looking for a partner to help them feel complete and settled. They give their all to them doing everything they can to make them happy because Libras are the best team players and long for a deep meaningful relationship that last a lifetime. However, relationships with Libras will take a negative turn if the partner feels like they take priority over everyone else (aka not being fair to the other people in the Libra’s life). Their indecisiveness can also turn potentially hurtful for their partners if not controlled well. Libras can also accidentally lead someone on with their flirtatious nature and avoidance of directly expressing their feelings (which is extremely hard for them to do).

Libras are great siblings to have in the family because they try to attain balance amongst all members. They’re good with sharing through childhood as well as balancing family time with friends time. The one area of work for Libras is setting aside time for self-reflection and uninterrupted meditation so they can make decisions. Sometimes Libra can be abrasive to family members but they will always make amends right after.

When it comes to their career paths, Libra can need to take ample time to select a career that will affect them in a big way. This choice can be stressful and difficult, so it’s best to give them time to reflect and weigh all their options (just like you should in any situation. Work-life balance is important to them because they want to make sure every aspect of their lives is satisfied. Libras are team members over leaders and some of the greatest support systems on the job. However, they do need to work on giving and receiving criticism and feedback. Their love for charity and justice often leads them to a field that is related to the two.

About Astrology: Houses

In the first Stars & Signs post (Capricorn), I briefly discussed the houses. Unlike the planets, you need your time of birth to know what sign is in your houses. While I rely on the planets to determine a person’s key traits, desires, and habits, the houses are important for the deeper perspectives of a person. Each house is ruled by a sign, and what sign falls under that house for you determines how you are likely to act or think in regards to what that house governs. However, your planet signs ALSO sit in a house which adds a layer of complexity.

Below you will find what signs are in each of my houses. What you don’t see is where my planets are in the houses. A perfect example is my sun sign. My sun is in Aries, but this sits in my eighth house which governs emotional security and of security of the soul. This means I not only embody the traits of the sign in my eighth house (which is Pisces) but I will have the goal (sun sign) of distinguishing myself from others through darkness, taboos, rebirth, sex, and transformation.

1ST HOUSE: Ruled by Aries

The cusp of the first house is where you can find your rising sign. It begins the zodiac, and covers your “firsts”: first impressions, your appearance, leadership, fresh starts, and new initiatives. Mine is in Leo which you can read about in my Leo lookbook post.

2ND HOUSE: Ruled by Taurus

The second house is related to all matters of material security and physical environment like your 5 senses. It also rules money/personal finances, sense of self-worth, basic values, personal possessions. Where yourr house and Mercury sign are placed can show money-making channels and basic talents. My second house is in Virgo meaning I may worry about money (lol yes). I am not especially generous with it unless I am comfortable with the person I’m spending it on. Then we can be a little too generous at times.

3RD HOUSE: Ruled by Gemini

The third house rules all forms of communication and social/intellectual learning, something Geminis are famous for. This includes talking, thinking, your electronic devices (cell phones, social media, texting, etc.). The third house also covers your childhood elements: siblings, neighborhood, local travels, libraries, schools, and community affairs. Libra sits in my third house. This means I often am inclined to seek refined people to have long discussions with without any raised voices or overheated “passion.” When it comes to talking, we look for harmony and calm conversations. I personally find this to be very true as I’m the type of person who seems hot headed in conflict but is willing to immediately sit down and talk it out calmly.

4TH HOUSE: Ruled by Cancer

The Cancer-ruled fourth house sits at the very bottom of the zodiac wheel. It is ruling our “foundation” from home, privacy, base security, family, and maternal abilities. My foundation is in the intensely private Scorpio which explains why I am attached to the idea of a stable home and family. My home life is very private and most people don’t know about it or the intensities that exist in it. I also value family a lot and crave for a good home in my future.

5TH HOUSE: Ruled by Leo

The fifth house is ruled by the ever so dramatic Leo. It governs creativity, attention, self-expression, romance, fun, entertainment, and drama. Mine is in Sagittarius which explains why I am attracted to adventure, travels, taking risks for pleasure of it, and treating my entire life as a game. If you know me in person, you know I am not only competitive but I think everything is a playing field and will manipulate my way into winning the “game” whether it is between friends, S/Os, coworkers, or people who don’t even know they’re my rivals. Sagittarius in my fifth house also means I’m prone to have many many love affairs throughout my life (which unfortunately doesn’t do me any good because many of my planets are in my 7th house causing me to crave long term relationships but struggle to obtain that partnership).

6TH HOUSE: Ruled by Virgo

The sixth house is the domain of health and service. It rules your schedules, organization, routines, fitness, natural and healthy living, and being of service to others. It is also the area of learning by material transaction. My 6th house is ruled by Capricorn. This means I can be a very hard worker when I want to be, unceasingly and patiently hammering away at my tasks. In terms of health, I am not supposed to do well with the cold (which is actually opposite for me) or changes in temperature (which is VERY accurate for me). Changes in temperature give me crippling migraines and body aches.

7TH HOUSE: Ruled by Libra

The seventh house is the sector of relationships. It governs all types of partnerships (business and personal) and relationship-associated matters like deals or contracts (marriage). My house is ruled by Aquarius and where two of my “weaker” planet placements (Venus in Pisces, Saturn in Pisces) sit. On the Aquarius side, this means I will look for partners who are friendly and very understanding. They must give me independence and support the way I will give it back. I might be hasty with love and marriage, but it is in my core to be loyal and work it all out. However, my two Pisces placements in this house mean that I find love in close and long-term relationships BUT  actually struggle very hard with close and long-term relationships because I am a hopeless romantic and struggle with setting limits to my heart.

8TH HOUSE: Ruled by Scorpio

The eighth house is a very mysterious sector and probably my favorite. It rules birth, death, sex, transformation, mysteries, and bonding at the deepest level. On the less dark side (or maybe just as dark if you’re in my family), this house rules other people’s property and money like real estate, inheritances, investments, and so forth. My eighth house is in… *sigh* Pisces. As a fire sun sign, I think I have been royally fucked with Pisces placements. This placement means I need to be firmer or more accountable with finances and intimacy. I need to be more straightforward with how I feel no matter how sticky the topic or situation is, and I need to work on being intimate without feeling the need to be misunderstood and hiding my dark secrets. On a completely different note, Pisces in 8th house means I need to be careful around water. Seeing that I am terrified of the ocean, can’t swim well, and cling onto anything that floats in a pool, I will gladly agree.

9TH HOUSE: Ruled by Sagittarius

The ninth house governs the higher mind. It rules mental expansion and how you learn to shape your identity. This includes international travel, foreign languages, publishing and broadcasting, universities and higher education, religion, philosophy, and your morals and ethics. Aries rules my ninth house meaning I love to travel with risk and adventure. I’m also drawn to activities that inspire me to align with my philosophical and/or spiritual believes and have to be careful that I don’t pressure others to believe what I believe in. Communicating the wisdom from my life experiences often helps me define who I am as well and help me recognize the higher self within me through leadership in these mentally expansive areas or activities. However, this means I need to learn how to be more patient with others and not always think “I AM RIGHT YOU ARE WRONG OKAY?!” I need to respect the thoughts and opinions of others as well as how they express themselves.

10TH HOUSE (Midheaven): Ruled By Capricorn

The tenth house is at the very top of the chart and therefore the most public part of the chart. It governs structures, corporations, tradition, public image, fame, honors, achievements, discipline, authority, and your paternal side (since it’s opposite to the fifth house, your maternal side). The cusp, or border, of the tenth house is also called the midheaven, and it clues astrologers into what your career path will likely be. Mine is in Taurus. This means I am often trusted at work and prefer to sink into a secure hands-on career with good prospects for generating wealth. I tend to go for work that shapes something (which explains my love for architecture and real estate), and greatest beauty. I’m inclined to channel myself into visual arts like interior design, theater, music, or other forms of expression. and my occupation is connected with something earth related (buildings) or finance. I will either take opportunities that make the most of those interests (either as a player or investor) or find a job that focuses on financial growth.

11TH HOUSE: Ruled by Aquarius

The eleventh house rules teams, friendships, groups, society and networking. True to its rulers Aquarius, it also governs media, social justice, humanitarian causes and futuristic things likee technology, invention, and astronomy or other sciences. My eleventh house is ruled by Gemini. This means I relate to myself, then to others, and then the world when I am meeting and getting to know new people. My thoughts and communications are influenced by my social circles and the people around me often inspire me to share ideas or put my idea with someone else’s to create something that benefits a whole community. However, this means I need to beware of groupthink and stick to my gut.

12TH HOUSE: Ruled by Pisces

The twelfth and final house rightfully rules endings. This is where you meet your karma and bury things deeply. This house covers the final stages of a project, tying up loose ends, completions, old age and the afterlife, and how you surrender. It’s also associated with separation from society or institutions and secrets. Since it is ruled by Pisces, it affects your imagination, the arts, and the subconscious mind. My twelfth house is in Cancer. On first glance, this means my problems mainly come from family. I’m compassionate with others emotions but give up my own needs for the emotional needs of others to the point that I can be worn down by their inability to take care for themselves. It’s not uncommon for me to suddenly withdraw my emotional generosity when this occurs. Sometimes I am inclined to martyr myself emotionally to obtain unconditional love that I seek from them. Overall, I have an unselfish regard for others and hope to achieve spiritual connections by developing souls through unconditional love and support.

 

There you have it! I hope you enjoyed learning about Libra and my houses. If you’re a good friend of mine, maybe this gave you an explanation as to why I am the brand I am (LOL). I have to run off now, but I’ll be back very soon. I’ve missed this! Stay cozy in sweater weather and enjoy cuffing season! Currently going to stab myself in the eye and hope yours are going better than mine.

Until next time, bisou bisou…